@Lynne Anderson Yes, that’s the point I was trying to make. She showed a montage of prepping him for meeting the parents. But she seemed to forget to teach him about this.
@Thomas Nittel Do y’all not lie or something?? I’m genuinely curious now. I’m from the US and a lot of stuff sounds familiar but the US is full of white lies
@Edith Puthy Your marital status is not a trivial matter though. I personally don't lie to my parents about lifestyle choices they disagree with or at all really. I don't really know anyone who does either. (were you not raised on the classic "If you're honest about what you did, I'll be inclined to be lenient with your punishment" or the liberal parents version "I'm not angry that you did it, I'm angry that you lied to me about it" ?) If anything a few couples in my life come to mind that openly refused to get married against their parents wishes, back when it was still way more taboo for unmarried couples to live together or god forbid have children before marriage. And while to concept of white lies might exist, it is still seen as something to be avoided. It's like you should not have brought yourself into a situation where you'd have to tell one or you should find a nicer way of saying the truth instead or at least tell a half truth. It's lying as the last resort and not a respectable way of managing social interactions. There might be strong regional differences on attitudes towards lying though so that may be why we disagree.
My father would probably chase him with the first tree branch he'd seen, and there is me running behind to stop my father. Then, the neighbours would pretend they have something to do outside their house.
Asian parents will even lie to themselves about this. My sister was living with her non-Asian boyfriend for years but they don't plan to marry and my mom always called him her "friend". He was finally upgraded to "boyfriend" after they had a baby lmao.
@pinkcrow That's precisely my point. It's not the same everywhere concerning benefits. And as far as boring love goes (which I literally spoke the opposite of), I'm good with letting people live how they choose to live. It's the mundane that makes a life. I'm happy to let folks be happy.
@Kaci Burns again with this boring love can conquer everything kind of cliche. I don't care about couple living together without tying the knot but I care when they start having kids and the kids being denied certain legal benefits due to the parents not being married.
@pinkcrow Marriage is a personal choice and people can not get married for many reasons. I know many couples who would happily marry, but don’t for financial reasons because it puts themselves and their kids in a better position in life. I also know several people who have divorced one another and remained living together because of certain financial and legal benefits they received being single. In one couple’s words, “we don’t have to be married to be committed to each other, we’re going to be together no matter what label we have.” Being married also does not make you a proper parent. Being married does not make you a good or bad parent; there are many bad parents who are married as well as the other way around. Personally, getting married changed nothing for me and my husband. In our minds we were already fully committed and all of our life was integrated together so I’m not entirely sure what you mean by distrusting. We only got married for the benefits we would receive. Otherwise, our commitment has been no different. Genuine love doesn’t need a label or a piece of paper or anything else. I hope that helps make sense of other peoples personal decisions for their lives!
Omg True!!! I’m asian and I have a non-Asian boyfriend . I introduced my boyfriend to my parents … and they keep still calling him my friend instead of boyfriend . Oh my gosh.
@Helga Ioannidis wellllll let's say majority of Germans don't. 'Nobody except some immigrants' is a little overgeneralized and, quite Frankly, insulting. We have a Lot of cultures and Religions, different people that View those different, and Not every one of those is an Immigrant.
@cane sugar agreed. I think germans are truly amazing but sometimes they need to be more flexible according to the situation which is kind of the only thing I see they have a hard time with. They are sometimes too rigid
I'm german, just this week in the train I showed a old ticket by accident, the ticket inspector didn't noticed but I did and searched and showed the right ticket. xD Even I thought that was to honest xD
My husband and I still wake up in a panic, trying to think of an excuse to tell my Korean mother why I stayed the night at his place. We’ve been married for almost a year 😂
@Bellator Dei The years of being girlfriend and boyfriend and worrying about being discovered "traumatised" both of them so much that even after they are married they still haven't gotten used to it being okay to sleep under the same roof. When they wake up they forget for a moment that they are married now, even though it has already been a year. That is how I would explain it.
One must almost marvel at the complete inability to read the room and the single minded manner in which he dug his own grave, so to speak. Turbo speed German efficiency.
it might be a bit ignorant, but keep in mind how different german culture is. not only is living together before marriage the norm, but outright lying to your own parents/in-laws is pretty shocking in a culture that highly values honesty. even if he was aware of how conservative her parents are, lying to them probably seemed more disrespectful than simply admitting it and accepting their reaction. in his head 'her parents disapprove of this' doesn't translate as 'we are going to lie to them about it', but as 'this is going to be a difficult conversation'. i actually know a few couples who were initially pressured to get married and dealt with the situation in a similar way. my parents are still unmarried 35 years later.
@KaNG expensive wedding is a Filipino tradition, to make plain to the whole family, neighbors and community that these two are married. So signing a paper won't do, because it has nothing apparent. And lacks fun of a good wedding party.
To this day I still don’t know if my in laws actually believed that ‘my room’ was behind the door to the linen cupboard in our flat or if they were just playing along to be polite… but we were already deep into wedding planning before they ever got to see where we lived… in totally different rooms.. in a 1 bed flat. Seriously though nobody’s introducing asian parents to a partner they aren’t planning to marry; why would you do that to yourself?
@Kelly Hills Ah, sorry things turned out that way. I think it is possible to marry an individual and it is also possible to marry into a family. Both are fine as long as you are on the same page. It’s probably fine to marry someone from a nutty family as long as boundaries are clear. The issue is that they usually aren’t and you end up sucked in. My experience with toxic family is that no contact is the best kind of contact.
@Amaranthyne Well, he is my ex. 😉He didn't share their beliefs, and our beliefs at least overlapped for most of the time we were married-right up until a lot of things just shattered. I also generally take the approach that I marry the person, not the family (which I know is controversial for some).
@Kelly Hills I hadn’t heard the term “quiverfull” before but there was a family like that at my conservative Christian school. One of the kids spouted off this ideology in class. I wasn’t there for it, but heard about it later. We all thought it was bonkers…because it _is._ That is cultish nonsense without any theology to support it just like polygamy and foregoing technology. Your husband must be one helluva guy to overlook in-laws of that caliber.
Had a similar conversation with my parents. “So I’m going on a trip with him, my friend and her boyfriend.” “Of course you’re sleeping with your friend and your boyfriend with her boyfriend, in two separate hotel rooms, right?” “Yeah, of course. Of course.”
@Edith Puthy You're not telling me anything I don't know, and none of it contradicts my point that it isn't an impossible situation. You don't have to be influenced by your parents for it to arise, as this video shows: she's not actually "complying" with the parental expectation, just acting like it for harmony's sake/to be respectful. Skirting around topics at family gatherings because you know the resulting conversation would be unpleasant is definitely a thing even in Germany. A general willingness to honestly state your opinion doesn't equate to being in the mood for arguments 24/7, after all.
@niwa s We have a little more Catholics than Lutherans but many people are just church members on paper bc they were baptized as children or are just casual Christians without staunch religious beliefs. Most devout Catholics would be really old people whose children are middle-aged and older so obviously they could be sour about their children having pre-marital sex etc. but they obviously have little say in that matter bc Germans are not as influenced by their parents as adults compared to some foreign cultures where parents hold a lot of sway even once their children are grown ups.
@Edith Puthy There's still going to be some parents who are weird about it in Germany, e.g. religious conservatives. We do have catholics and even some fundies. So while not a likely scenario, it's also not impossible.
This is so true for Asian households 😭😭 My parents would NEVER let me become a roommate with a person of the opposite sex that's not a relative. Let alone a bf
@MyAcc2021 No, it's not. There's no rule and both families get together to decide on the budget. If the bride's family wants to foot a bit more to cover for a princess wedding like the gown and church decoration they might go for it. That's why it's likely that the bride's parents pay more for the wedding party.
Ah yes. The downsides of Asian parents/in-laws. As the German in the relationship, I just started to not speak at all, just smile and nod. They must think I am mute. Better than lying and having to remember all the lies all the time :D I must say I hate lying, but I understand that it would create all kinds of problems otherwise.
As a German, I had this with my Chinese girlfriend. I straight up told her parents that there is no wedding. Gf got nervous, parents mad. Half a year later, her dad told me "I didnt like it, but I like your honesty. " - everything was cool after that.
Why no wedding tho ? What's the issue ? Apart from having a baby, that's the only way to make your couple official, not just boyfriend girlfriend like teenagers.
Trying to explain how I'm going on holiday with my German boyfriend. Indian mum: so will you share a room with a girl friend? Me: no, it's just the boyfriend and I going on holiday. Mum: so you'll get separate rooms? Me: like I have money to burn lol Mum: ...
Canadian with a Chinese girlfriend had a very similar faux pas with her dad. I knew better than to say we shared the same bed, but it just happened, I really wanted to show him a cute picture of our dog. I forgot that it was a photo in what was visibly her bedroom and her bed which I was supposed to have never been to.
Don't ask him to lie. That is breaking a rule and breaking a rule results in a system error. You now have to reboot your boyfriend back to a earlier state.
@elissa lesse Expecting children is neither outdated, nor "putrid". Most married people have sex together. When 2 fertile people have sex regularly, a pregnancy will occur sooner or later. Most people in the world are fertile so statistically, it is normal to expect a married couple to produce children at some point. Also, childbearing is a noble endeavor and there shouldn't be any sort of animosity against the women who engage themselves in it. That is how a 100% of us got on this planet, including you. Remember it.
@Nigglaas I personally won't let my parents dictate but I would listen to their input and consider it in my decisions because they want my well-being and have been through situations I never experienced so they might look at situations from a wiser angle.
@KevinLetting your parents dictate over your relationship is old though...One should be able to judge their and their partners commitment by themselves, especially if they're in their 20s.
My husband and I actually sleep in separate rooms during the week cuz of our different work schedules (I get up at 5am and he gets up at 8am) plus he’s a super light sleeper
Not just relatable in couples where one is Asian. Try rural Belgium. Had a call from the father of my daughter’s father because said boyfriend had fallen asleep on the couch at my house while I was away… to visit with my own significant other. He was very worried. Throughout the conversation with that sweet, concerned father I was constantly thinking: “What you’re worried about is not reserved for after sundown.” Safe to say that no matter how tired that polite, intelligent, kind medical student son of his is, he’s decidedly uncomfortable with the very idea of his offspring sleeping elsewhere. Chaperone or no, snoring or no. He’s a sweet, caring father. I have the utmost respect for him and his values. Daughter, boyfriend and me have worked out a solution. If boyfriend is too tired I’m driving him home and he can come collect his bicycle the next day.
This happened to me with my ex😂 He was the one who fucked up😂 and I was the one who was scolded 😂 Even when we stayed at the hotel, my parents expected us to sleep separately 😂Damn, we are dating and then how could you expect us not to sleep together?????
Thank god your parents are comfortable with you living together, my parents dont even allow me and my husband to live under the same roof not even a single day before our wedding ceremony despite the fact that we're a legally married couple 😅
I'm catholic too and im the one putting the foot down. I was sleeping at my boyfriends house but I was the one not wanting marriage. In 4 years he was still struggling financially and pushing for marriage+baby. I was the western one and my boyfriend was chinese. A man shouldn't sleep with a woman for years without intention to marry her
Me to my Nigerian parents before I married my husband. I always said I shared a room with his sister. But in reality, from day 1, we shared a room for the entire 3.5 years 😂 If you want peace, just lie about it
Uyen dad: "So you share the same dad with my daughter" **pulls out a shotgun out of nowhere** Uyen: "You did this to yourself" He should be remember by everyone for being honest..R.I.P✊😔
Hahahaha, my Christian parents. I moved in with my fiance a month before we married and they didn't necessarily approve but I think decided, "close enough." He was working and in college at the time and I explained to my mother that I wanted to be there to do his laundry and dishes and housework and support him getting his education. I already had two degrees and I know how hard it is to have to work while in college.
Coming from a Catholic upbringing, I feel you. But why would mutual intimate relations be BAD while being a guy's servant is GOOD? Surely we've come a long way in equality that the expectations at least value you as your own individual? I also worked while going to school, and it wasn't hard.
"So you share a bed with my daughter but you don't plan the wedding this year?" "Well, here's the plan: * gives precisely calculated plan about the wedding only missing an exact date *" :D
Marriage is the right path, except if it is not right for you Uyenninh - trust me, as a late middle age gal, if marriage is not right for you both, you should think about your options! You are a wonderful person and deserve the best!
No some parents truly expect no shenanigans and will beat the guy up if they find out he took their daughter before a wedding. Its a gamble, one should be wise.
Ah, so that's why he proposed. True Asian dad powers.
mom's power too
He proposed before they went to Vietnam, if I remember right.
sht gets more serious with rolled up sleeves
Pure perfection
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When the boyfriend can't take the hint... "You did this to yourself" was the best way to make him decide the wedding date.
@Lynne Anderson Yes, that’s the point I was trying to make. She showed a montage of prepping him for meeting the parents. But she seemed to forget to teach him about this.
Hints don't matter, you should propose when you WANT to propose, not get forced into it.
@niwa s Oh, no! If in Asia you must know as different as ALL COUNTRIES in Asia are, you DO NOT say this to parents.
Get this girl a role in a soap opera asap!
I know! She’s so talented!!
I removed my like for the comment to not destroy the 6666 likes but I still want to announce that I like it!
She is the one to play in a 'one-woman-show' all different characters..I would love to watch it👀🤣🤣👏👏
nah she's hilarious she needs to be on a comedy like maybe that british quiz show or something
@Deep Convos um
“Where did i sleep last year then? The couch?”
Yes
Yes you did
Under the couch
he didn't. he will now.
@Monalisa Nath 😂😂😂😂 yeah
Thats what my mama thinks and thats what shes gonna keep thinking
No, he will the next year.
It was this moment, he knew he fucked up ✨🤌
Yeah literally and figuratively! 🤣
@Uyen Ninh Germans? reading the room?
Or perhaps he didn't; someone to have like Uyen is great no? Though this way, isn't fun as proposing should be 😅
😂😂😂
@Uyen Ninh🤣🤣
when honesty backfires
welcome to asia
@Thomas Nittel Do y’all not lie or something?? I’m genuinely curious now. I’m from the US and a lot of stuff sounds familiar but the US is full of white lies
@Uyen Ninh it's called "Notlüge" in german. Try and use that word
I'd much prefer not talking to people at all if I have to lie to them to have a pleasant relationship.
@Edith Puthy Your marital status is not a trivial matter though. I personally don't lie to my parents about lifestyle choices they disagree with or at all really. I don't really know anyone who does either. (were you not raised on the classic "If you're honest about what you did, I'll be inclined to be lenient with your punishment" or the liberal parents version "I'm not angry that you did it, I'm angry that you lied to me about it" ?) If anything a few couples in my life come to mind that openly refused to get married against their parents wishes, back when it was still way more taboo for unmarried couples to live together or god forbid have children before marriage.
And while to concept of white lies might exist, it is still seen as something to be avoided. It's like you should not have brought yourself into a situation where you'd have to tell one or you should find a nicer way of saying the truth instead or at least tell a half truth. It's lying as the last resort and not a respectable way of managing social interactions. There might be strong regional differences on attitudes towards lying though so that may be why we disagree.
I could honestly see her family chase him out of the house until he tells them when there’s gonna be a wedding 😂
@Оля nah, I'm considering it according to the audacity, weight of the crime 😅
@Wander patata 🤣 XD !
My father would probably chase him with the first tree branch he'd seen, and there is me running behind to stop my father. Then, the neighbours would pretend they have something to do outside their house.
Thank god they're engaged by now 😂
@Cheng Dong okay, slippers is only mother's superpower
Asian parents will even lie to themselves about this. My sister was living with her non-Asian boyfriend for years but they don't plan to marry and my mom always called him her "friend". He was finally upgraded to "boyfriend" after they had a baby lmao.
@pinkcrow That's precisely my point. It's not the same everywhere concerning benefits. And as far as boring love goes (which I literally spoke the opposite of), I'm good with letting people live how they choose to live. It's the mundane that makes a life. I'm happy to let folks be happy.
@Kaci Burns again with this boring love can conquer everything kind of cliche. I don't care about couple living together without tying the knot but I care when they start having kids and the kids being denied certain legal benefits due to the parents not being married.
@pinkcrow Marriage is a personal choice and people can not get married for many reasons. I know many couples who would happily marry, but don’t for financial reasons because it puts themselves and their kids in a better position in life. I also know several people who have divorced one another and remained living together because of certain financial and legal benefits they received being single. In one couple’s words, “we don’t have to be married to be committed to each other, we’re going to be together no matter what label we have.” Being married also does not make you a proper parent. Being married does not make you a good or bad parent; there are many bad parents who are married as well as the other way around. Personally, getting married changed nothing for me and my husband. In our minds we were already fully committed and all of our life was integrated together so I’m not entirely sure what you mean by distrusting. We only got married for the benefits we would receive. Otherwise, our commitment has been no different. Genuine love doesn’t need a label or a piece of paper or anything else. I hope that helps make sense of other peoples personal decisions for their lives!
Omg True!!! I’m asian and I have a non-Asian boyfriend . I introduced my boyfriend to my parents … and they keep still calling him my friend instead of boyfriend . Oh my gosh.
@pinkcrow real talk
As if she wouldn't have given him a run-down of the secrets we keep from family. She's smarter than this.
@Deep Convos It’s not a poor act, it’s funny!
It's cultural comedy.
@Helga Ioannidis wellllll let's say majority of Germans don't. 'Nobody except some immigrants' is a little overgeneralized and, quite Frankly, insulting. We have a Lot of cultures and Religions, different people that View those different, and Not every one of those is an Immigrant.
@cane sugar agreed. I think germans are truly amazing but sometimes they need to be more flexible according to the situation which is kind of the only thing I see they have a hard time with. They are sometimes too rigid
"Where did I sleep last year then? The couch?"
Well now youre going to 😂😂
The German honesty is genetic, I swear, my husband canNOT help himself but be honest lol
Too bad it doesn’t apply to Turkish Germans.
I like Germans👌
It's not honesty, it's to correct the other person and feel superior.
I'm german, just this week in the train I showed a old ticket by accident, the ticket inspector didn't noticed but I did and searched and showed the right ticket. xD Even I thought that was to honest xD
My husband and I still wake up in a panic, trying to think of an excuse to tell my Korean mother why I stayed the night at his place. We’ve been married for almost a year 😂
Sounds like trauma xdd
Just like a exam nightmare, poor dears! 😂 I hope yall will feel safer as the years go by. ❤️
🤣🤣
Just say I slept at hes place deal with it
@Bellator Dei The years of being girlfriend and boyfriend and worrying about being discovered "traumatised" both of them so much that even after they are married they still haven't gotten used to it being okay to sleep under the same roof. When they wake up they forget for a moment that they are married now, even though it has already been a year. That is how I would explain it.
One must almost marvel at the complete inability to read the room and the single minded manner in which he dug his own grave, so to speak. Turbo speed German efficiency.
it might be a bit ignorant, but keep in mind how different german culture is. not only is living together before marriage the norm, but outright lying to your own parents/in-laws is pretty shocking in a culture that highly values honesty. even if he was aware of how conservative her parents are, lying to them probably seemed more disrespectful than simply admitting it and accepting their reaction. in his head 'her parents disapprove of this' doesn't translate as 'we are going to lie to them about it', but as 'this is going to be a difficult conversation'.
i actually know a few couples who were initially pressured to get married and dealt with the situation in a similar way. my parents are still unmarried 35 years later.
@Samantha Em Yes it is, it's just different topics people are touchy about.
@Samantha Em I'd say the know how to read the room within their culture, just as everyone else around the world.
@Samantha Em No, no, it really is still a required skill, and too few people have it.
Oh, as a Filipino girl this is so relatable!
Me and filipina gf shared bedroom but not bed, and had a chaperone sleeping with us. When we got engaged, chaperone disappeared like by magic..
@My serendipity but the parents ask the couple all the times when are they getting married.
@KaNG the parents actually want the church wedding more than the official papers.
@KaNG expensive wedding is a Filipino tradition, to make plain to the whole family, neighbors and community that these two are married. So signing a paper won't do, because it has nothing apparent. And lacks fun of a good wedding party.
Hahaha... As an Indian I can imagine the nightmare and the literal shock disappointment all at once in my mother's face
@Moumita Santra even then my mom would freak out perhaps 😂
@NothingPosted905 hahaha all the best to you
I'm in a situationship with an Indian guy and I know I should slink away when his mom calls
This has happened too many times with me...when i was living together with me fiance (now husband)....
@Gowri Nandana same
To this day I still don’t know if my in laws actually believed that ‘my room’ was behind the door to the linen cupboard in our flat or if they were just playing along to be polite… but we were already deep into wedding planning before they ever got to see where we lived… in totally different rooms.. in a 1 bed flat.
Seriously though nobody’s introducing asian parents to a partner they aren’t planning to marry; why would you do that to yourself?
@Kelly Hills Ah, sorry things turned out that way.
I think it is possible to marry an individual and it is also possible to marry into a family. Both are fine as long as you are on the same page. It’s probably fine to marry someone from a nutty family as long as boundaries are clear. The issue is that they usually aren’t and you end up sucked in. My experience with toxic family is that no contact is the best kind of contact.
@Amaranthyne Well, he is my ex. 😉He didn't share their beliefs, and our beliefs at least overlapped for most of the time we were married-right up until a lot of things just shattered.
I also generally take the approach that I marry the person, not the family (which I know is controversial for some).
@Kelly Hills I hadn’t heard the term “quiverfull” before but there was a family like that at my conservative Christian school. One of the kids spouted off this ideology in class. I wasn’t there for it, but heard about it later. We all thought it was bonkers…because it _is._ That is cultish nonsense without any theology to support it just like polygamy and foregoing technology. Your husband must be one helluva guy to overlook in-laws of that caliber.
@Amaranthyne Quiverfull. Fundamentalist evangelical Protestants.
@Kelly Hills 😵💫 What denomination is that supposed to be?
bro my brain would just generate 101 fake stories to elaborate that😭
@nour han yes :)
@Thomas Roll
Stereotype
@Thomas Roll using islam card in any conversation is getting boring u know
@Lauren Anderson THIS. you just dont wanna make the situation become any more awkward/heated
@Lyne sooo if lying even once is called as a sign of pathological liar, then ✨everyone is a pathological liar✨
Had a similar conversation with my parents.
“So I’m going on a trip with him, my friend and her boyfriend.”
“Of course you’re sleeping with your friend and your boyfriend with her boyfriend, in two separate hotel rooms, right?”
“Yeah, of course. Of course.”
@Edith Puthy You're not telling me anything I don't know, and none of it contradicts my point that it isn't an impossible situation.
You don't have to be influenced by your parents for it to arise, as this video shows: she's not actually "complying" with the parental expectation, just acting like it for harmony's sake/to be respectful. Skirting around topics at family gatherings because you know the resulting conversation would be unpleasant is definitely a thing even in Germany. A general willingness to honestly state your opinion doesn't equate to being in the mood for arguments 24/7, after all.
@niwa s We have a little more Catholics than Lutherans but many people are just church members on paper bc they were baptized as children or are just casual Christians without staunch religious beliefs. Most devout Catholics would be really old people whose children are middle-aged and older so obviously they could be sour about their children having pre-marital sex etc. but they obviously have little say in that matter bc Germans are not as influenced by their parents as adults compared to some foreign cultures where parents hold a lot of sway even once their children are grown ups.
@Edith Puthy There's still going to be some parents who are weird about it in Germany, e.g. religious conservatives. We do have catholics and even some fundies. So while not a likely scenario, it's also not impossible.
@sirBrouwer it's not a German rule and therefore does not apply in Germany 🤷
@Edith Puthy no, it is making sure you follow the rules on a technicality.
"you did this to yourself" lol
lol
This is so true for Asian households 😭😭 My parents would NEVER let me become a roommate with a person of the opposite sex that's not a relative. Let alone a bf
@Red Leeks princess like wedding and church decoration is required for male too,so both sides should pay
@MyAcc2021 nag western culture is modern,brides father doesn't pay for weddjng
@Saranya nah,narrow minded thing
@MyAcc2021 No, it's not.
There's no rule and both families get together to decide on the budget.
If the bride's family wants to foot a bit more to cover for a princess wedding like the gown and church decoration they might go for it.
That's why it's likely that the bride's parents pay more for the wedding party.
..as if it is better if you rent a room at a love hotel for an hour or two... it will happen anyway.
Ah yes. The downsides of Asian parents/in-laws. As the German in the relationship, I just started to not speak at all, just smile and nod. They must think I am mute. Better than lying and having to remember all the lies all the time :D I must say I hate lying, but I understand that it would create all kinds of problems otherwise.
😂😂😂
The fact German has no real word for gurlfriend/boyfriend and jump straight to LIFE PARTNER makes this somewhat funnier.
i would say "Mein fester Freund"
@Jan St eine Freundin = a friend, meine Freundin = girlfriend
Meine Freundin. Eine Freundin.
My girlfriend. A girlfriend.
Same for boyfriend
@bennai2 True.
@elektra121 the bureaucratic correct would be "Lebensabschnittgefährtin"
As a German, I had this with my Chinese girlfriend.
I straight up told her parents that there is no wedding. Gf got nervous, parents mad.
Half a year later, her dad told me "I didnt like it, but I like your honesty. " - everything was cool after that.
@suspicious brianBut if you're together for years, what's the wedding gonna change besides legal stuff? Will your love get stronger or something ?
@suspicious brian go have one yourself then
Why no wedding tho ? What's the issue ? Apart from having a baby, that's the only way to make your couple official, not just boyfriend girlfriend like teenagers.
I am gonna tell my kid, that is how Corona pandemic started.
Trying to explain how I'm going on holiday with my German boyfriend.
Indian mum: so will you share a room with a girl friend?
Me: no, it's just the boyfriend and I going on holiday.
Mum: so you'll get separate rooms?
Me: like I have money to burn lol
Mum: ...
Canadian with a Chinese girlfriend had a very similar faux pas with her dad.
I knew better than to say we shared the same bed, but it just happened, I really wanted to show him a cute picture of our dog. I forgot that it was a photo in what was visibly her bedroom and her bed which I was supposed to have never been to.
@Cavalerie des marres et des guêtres did i stutter?
@Stephanie what ?
Should have said it was a picture she sent you. They'd never know.
Pls tell me you weaseled your way out of that one.
dad is being very patient and generous in asking when the wedding is lol
Don't ask him to lie. That is breaking a rule and breaking a rule results in a system error.
You now have to reboot your boyfriend back to a earlier state.
@Dynamo Pirate now he is just randy.
Have you tried turning him off and on?
😂 Don't (try to) break the truth.
It might slap back consequently
😂
🤦
Asian kids know the art of self-preservation and telling Asian parents what they want to hear.
It's still so funny to me that all kinds of parents think bedroom stuff would only happen at night.
The couch where Netflix and chill happens: 👁️💧👄💧👁️
Tbf that when it happens the most and ladies like to be comfy and not fall over
And only in a bed
When I moved in with my first boyfriend, my dad was genuinely confused as to why we only had one bed. 😂
I need a full series of this, in the style of a Vietnamese drama 😩 Literally the best✨
Any girl from a culture that still holds old world traditions knows the struggles dating today....we lie lie lie to keep the peace!
@elissa lesse Expecting children is neither outdated, nor "putrid". Most married people have sex together. When 2 fertile people have sex regularly, a pregnancy will occur sooner or later. Most people in the world are fertile so statistically, it is normal to expect a married couple to produce children at some point.
Also, childbearing is a noble endeavor and there shouldn't be any sort of animosity against the women who engage themselves in it. That is how a 100% of us got on this planet, including you. Remember it.
@Kevin ew, “expect” children? yeah, no, that is WAY outdated thinking, you might not be SURPRISED at childreb, but expecting it is so.. putrid.
@Kevin you can still be married and be committed. My parents have been together 30 years and they're committed
@Nigglaas I personally won't let my parents dictate but I would listen to their input and consider it in my decisions because they want my well-being and have been through situations I never experienced so they might look at situations from a wiser angle.
@KevinLetting your parents dictate over your relationship is old though...One should be able to judge their and their partners commitment by themselves, especially if they're in their 20s.
My husband and I actually sleep in separate rooms during the week cuz of our different work schedules (I get up at 5am and he gets up at 8am) plus he’s a super light sleeper
Considering she gave him hour long lectures on meeting her family, i m pretty sure she left this part out to ensure he proposes quickly 🤣
what wedding? 😐
*continues german honesty*
he knew he did smth wrong
edit: MOM IM FAMOUS
“Where did I sleep the last 2 years then? The couch?”
Nope.
But the next 2 years? Maybe! 😅😂
Not just relatable in couples where one is Asian. Try rural Belgium. Had a call from the father of my daughter’s father because said boyfriend had fallen asleep on the couch at my house while I was away… to visit with my own significant other. He was very worried. Throughout the conversation with that sweet, concerned father I was constantly thinking: “What you’re worried about is not reserved for after sundown.”
Safe to say that no matter how tired that polite, intelligent, kind medical student son of his is, he’s decidedly uncomfortable with the very idea of his offspring sleeping elsewhere. Chaperone or no, snoring or no.
He’s a sweet, caring father. I have the utmost respect for him and his values. Daughter, boyfriend and me have worked out a solution. If boyfriend is too tired I’m driving him home and he can come collect his bicycle the next day.
In Indonesia, we would call it as MBA aka married by accident 😂
This happened to me with my ex😂
He was the one who fucked up😂 and I was the one who was scolded 😂
Even when we stayed at the hotel, my parents expected us to sleep separately 😂Damn, we are dating and then how could you expect us not to sleep together?????
Something tells me that this conversation should have been troubleshooted prior to meeting parents..
Her dad acting and the accent Was sooooo good. I loved it
So they learnt English really quickly
Thank god your parents are comfortable with you living together, my parents dont even allow me and my husband to live under the same roof not even a single day before our wedding ceremony despite the fact that we're a legally married couple 😅
allow? seriously? you’re over 18.. they can’t “allow” or “disallow” anything, how gross.
Lol I'm Catholic and some families in my area are still like this 😂 good ol Westerwolde
I'm catholic too and im the one putting the foot down. I was sleeping at my boyfriends house but I was the one not wanting marriage.
In 4 years he was still struggling financially and pushing for marriage+baby.
I was the western one and my boyfriend was chinese.
A man shouldn't sleep with a woman for years without intention to marry her
@Mirjan Bouma jaaa maar dan kijk je ook een beetje naar dorpen vlakbij Duitsland . Sellingen heeft dit ook nog lang gehad 😂 en moi buurtje! 👋🏻
Wholesome
Neeee hier in Groningen?! Dat meen je niet 😮🤣. Hallo buurtje! (DAL gemeente hierzo) 👋🏻
Me to my Nigerian parents before I married my husband. I always said I shared a room with his sister. But in reality, from day 1, we shared a room for the entire 3.5 years 😂
If you want peace, just lie about it
I just love this girl and I hope she doesn't change, she's so sweet and sounds genuine 💗 go girl
It was this moment, that he knew he fucked up 💀
Uyen dad: "So you share the same dad with my daughter" **pulls out a shotgun out of nowhere**
Uyen: "You did this to yourself"
He should be remember by everyone for being honest..R.I.P✊😔
Guys it’s a typo, relax😂
this plot line belongs on reddit 😂
Same dad?!?! Huhhh?!
what in the sweet home Alabama? Please tell me “same dad” is a typo… 😅
My man was missing ALL the social ques 😂😂😂
I’m amused by the clock turning backward in time 😂
I saw your engagement video last month. Is this how your proposal went down? Congratulations either way!
That’s why you need a game plan before you meet each others parents 😂
Her acting skills are so ON POINT!!!! lol love love looooove all these videos!
Hahahaha, my Christian parents. I moved in with my fiance a month before we married and they didn't necessarily approve but I think decided, "close enough." He was working and in college at the time and I explained to my mother that I wanted to be there to do his laundry and dishes and housework and support him getting his education. I already had two degrees and I know how hard it is to have to work while in college.
Coming from a Catholic upbringing, I feel you. But why would mutual intimate relations be BAD while being a guy's servant is GOOD? Surely we've come a long way in equality that the expectations at least value you as your own individual? I also worked while going to school, and it wasn't hard.
"You did this to yourself" was genuinely the part that made laugh out loud. Love these videos.
"You did this to yourself" HAHAHA that's true, listen to your girlfriend when she lies to her parents 😂😂
that was very spontaneous of your bf 😂
She was perfectly happy to lie. This one is all on German boyfriend. 😂😂
We share a bedroom
Indian parents : so you have chosen death
So when's the wedding? 😁
So this is why you finally enganged? Lol no just joking. Anyway congrats. Love from Indonesia
"So you share a bed with my daughter but you don't plan the wedding this year?"
"Well, here's the plan: * gives precisely calculated plan about the wedding only missing an exact date *" :D
Don't underestimate the power of Rubber slippers:- An experienced Asian
Marriage is the right path, except if it is not right for you Uyenninh - trust me, as a late middle age gal, if marriage is not right for you both, you should think about your options! You are a wonderful person and deserve the best!
If you can't your guy to commit to you, just call in Vietnamese fathers. ANY Vietnamese father will get the job done lol
So, when is the wedding? ☺️
I can't even describe that kind of laughs that came out of me from watching this. Fave clip so far
Ah, good ol German honesty bit him the butt. Time to start planning!
The parents would be too naive to believe that they slept in separate bedrooms😂😂
That's why, if you have a partner of a different culture, you follow their lead lmao
As an Asian, I can so relate.
The long sigh that's followed by "when is the wedding?" and she's just like, you dug this hole on your own and you can get out of it on your own!
He really did do it to himself. Wow....
I LOVE this channel so much. It's always a highlight when a new video drops.
“proposes in panic”
"Where else did I sleep? The couch?"
Well if you weren't...you are now
Her page is better than all the content on Netflix lol
I knew all Asians parents are like this lmaoo
This is literally Nigerian parents in a nutshell
Sometimes silence is golden. 🤫🤐
Parents KNOW!!!....They just pretend to not know what happens....😅
Not in denmark if we are above 15 or so they dont interfere but might talk to us about contraception and emotions ect
@Username should be that way across the board.
Saves a lot of anger and reputations
No some parents truly expect no shenanigans and will beat the guy up if they find out he took their daughter before a wedding. Its a gamble, one should be wise.
😭😂😂😂😂😂😂 bro this was common sense to follow along.
Man really just ended his own life💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
"You did this to yourself!"
*sips tea*
🤣🤣, this is the reality guys.... i love the father figure
No she actually started calling him fiance after this vid😭
Just tell them we don't do weddings in germany, it's half true at least.
Kinda.
Sister's built a house and had a child with her one true love.
But you better believe nobody ever saw her in a wedding dress.
He digged himself so deep 😩
The guy just dug his own grave forgetting he's in an Asian household
“you did this to yourself”😂
Most creative proposal 👏
This is awesome! He ignored all her warnings! Hahahahahaha
Yep, you did it to yourself. Lol
My parents would have been the same way. Luckily I didn't give them anything to worry about or bemoan.
"I'm sorry the what?" part is killin me LOL🤣
anyway, I think Asian parents are the same right? Because mine too🥲
I agree with her. He did this to himself.
Oh my gosh, this would be my dad and he's not even Asian 😂😂😂
You are a comedic genius. This may be one of your funniest sketches yet :)
This is why you have the conversation to ensure you're on thr same topic