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  • Trina Q
    Trina Q 2 months ago +3696

    I liked the little touch of Carl referring to his house as Ellie, basically giving the house his late wife's personality. When Muntz dies by getting his foot caught in the balloons, it can be inferred as Ellie saving her husband.

    • Promecia PS5 Gaming
      Promecia PS5 Gaming 2 months ago +3

      I believe it is personification, not naming the house. He talks to the house through an associative connection to it. Remember, Carl and Ellie lived thier thier whole lives and the house is the place of all those memories. And therefore houses a deeper bond for Carl than anything else in the world now that Ellie is gone. Also, her picture is still in the house.

    • TheShanicpower
      TheShanicpower 2 months ago +6

      @amlus05 There’s another layer of symbolism in how it affects Carl and Muntz. Both of them are people chasing a dream that died long ago. It doesn’t really matter at this point whether he returns with the bird or not, anyone who remembered or mocked him is likely dead. The same goes for Carl, there’s no real point in getting the house to Paradise Falls at this point. Ellie’s not alive to live there with him anyway. In the end, Carl realises this and lets go, which is literally what allows him to win: he rises to the sky in order to rescue what he still has in life. Muntz does the opposite. He clings desperately to his goals and lets it blind him, until he ends up falling to his death.

    • if i eated soap, i don’t eat it bc i did.
      if i eated soap, i don’t eat it bc i did. 2 months ago

      @Remy Havocpfff

    • TIFFANY PERSAUD
      TIFFANY PERSAUD 2 months ago

      Wow.

    • amlus05
      amlus05 2 months ago +7

      @TheShanicpower and how the house ends up where it needed to be, even after Carl lets go. The grief journey is unpredictable, but if you take it one day at a time, you'll get where you need to be.

  • The Slate
    The Slate 2 months ago +1413

    Carl giving Russell the Ellie badge always gets me. It feels like they're filling the hole in each other's lives. Carl is a father figure to Russell and Russell reminds Carl that his life can still have adventure without Ellie.

    • Prakriti
      Prakriti Month ago +19

      @Mqgawario maybe I'm projecting because of my own struggles but I always thought it was implied that she found out she would probably never have children. Not for lack of trying.
      I never thought they just gave up after one. But maybe....

    • Mqgawario
      Mqgawario Month ago +1

      @Bushi Two He could have kids, they just had a stillbirth or miscarriage

    • Bushi Two
      Bushi Two Month ago +45

      Especially when you think of the fact that he couldn’t have children 😢

  • Thea Argent
    Thea Argent Month ago +794

    My uncle invited us to the cinema for this film as a family and my mum cried like a baby on the marriage Montague. Like she was full on bawling and my father held her hand. We lost him 4 years ago, so now I'm thinking of this memory and am also crying. It would've been his birthday today. Thank you Guys.

    • Pokaay
      Pokaay 29 days ago +7

      Sorry for your loss. He lives on in your memories of him :)

  • Marina Amarillo
    Marina Amarillo Month ago +748

    This movie has a special place in my heart because we went to watch it at the cinema with my grandma, my mom and my sister, and was the first time we went out all together after my grandpa passed away. We decided to watch a Pixar movie because we thought it'll be "soft" for my grandma on her grieving (No, we didn't know what the movie was about). The marriage life scene hit so beautifully hard that we all started to cry... but the ending scene, when Carl reads Ellie's final note on her book, we all looked at my grandma by instinct. She was crying a lot, but her eyes shined like they used to do when my grandpa was still alive. Those were the words I'm sure my grandpa would have told her and I think in that moment she started to heal.
    Thanks for this beautiful analysis and for the work you all do to show us how movies can connect with our minds and souls!

    • JustAlpha
      JustAlpha 19 days ago

      Phhhhhhh :'(

    • Marina Amarillo
      Marina Amarillo 23 days ago +12

      thanks for the comments and love ! My grandma is doing fine, she's almost 92, and even I don't live with her anymore, I call her 2 or 3 times a week. Sometimes she forgets who I am and thinks I'm my mom (we lost her too in 2020), but I try to remember all the times she made me laugh in my life, and I try to do the same with her. Cherish your loved ones, people. And a big hug for those who are missing someone.

    • Racky Dacky
      Racky Dacky 24 days ago +2

      this made me cry so bad

    • Austin Kersey
      Austin Kersey 27 days ago +4

      This reminded me of my grandpa, and how my grandmother never really recovered fully after his passing. She still had a joy for life, but she was duller and less full without him. She looked almost like a ghost, barely tethered to the Earth. And now, age has robbed her of her faculties, and I have to watch her body slowly realize that it's dying as it catches up with her mind. The moment I realized that she was gone beyond our ability to help was when she started talking about me rather than talking to me. She forgot how to play cards and board games (things she prided herself on being particularly good at), lost her intense focus that helped get things done, and her once sharp wit has whittled down to nothing. It makes me sad just thinking about her. 2022 took a lot from me, and this is just one of three horrible losses that accursed year saw fit to bestow upon me. I'm trying to move on though.

    • KYRILL
      KYRILL 27 days ago +2

      Thank you for sharing this with us.
      For me the movie brings back memories from my grandpa. He died just a couple days before turning 80. I could not say goodbye to him... So I cried during my first watch but it also made me happy. A great movie for sure!

  • DevilJoJo
    DevilJoJo 2 months ago +155

    I remember I had a friend who admitted she cried easily, and then made the mistake of admitting she never saw Up. I immediately told her boyfriend to make her watch it that night. She called me the next day frantically yelling "WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?!" 🤣🤣🤣

    • Lhama Galopante
      Lhama Galopante Day ago +1

      I did the same, but with my sister and Grave of the Fireflies...Same results! (although we watched it togheter and she yelled at me at the end of the movie ahahha).

    • Veritas MoD
      Veritas MoD 27 days ago +20

      My dude, that was devilish of you. And I LOVE IT! XD

  • Brandi
    Brandi 2 months ago +1911

    There is a guilt in Carl having an adventure without Ellie. Almost like a survivor’s guilt. When my brother died, I questioned every time I laughed or giggled. There was a guilt there, because you keep thinking that person isn’t there to laugh so why should you deserve to laugh? When he accepts that she’s gone and she wouldn’t want him to be sad was the best part of the film for me.
    Edit: I want to add, it took many years for me to grow some acceptance…and it is still hard to think about sometimes even after 13 years. Good luck on your grieving journey, don’t give up. I needed therapy for a long time until it became a little bit easier.

    • Sirius Black
      Sirius Black Month ago

      When my mom lost her younger brother, she also used to feel immense guilt whenever she giggled or laughed. 😞

    • JustalittleTurtle
      JustalittleTurtle 2 months ago

      Damn you Brandi, your comment made me cry too. I’m really scared that I’m going to lose someone in the next decade. I’m not ready, I’m really dreading it. And it’s not any easier knowing I’m going to be losing my childhood dog soon too. That person and my dog are two of the most important things in my life, and I’m not sure how I’d deal with not having them around anymore. I’d probably feel like you, guilty for doing anything that makes me happy. Thank you for sharing your story. I think I really needed to hear it.

    • Maria del Mar Ramos
      Maria del Mar Ramos 2 months ago +1

      @thexavier666 Everything you just said…🥹

    • Daniela Reiner
      Daniela Reiner 2 months ago +3

      My bf lost his gf to suicide about 3 years ago and he till this day feels guilt that he is happier with me and giving me what he couldn't give her. It's really hard :/ sometimes he is indenial so he doesn't feel guilt

    • Erik Mark Lukács
      Erik Mark Lukács 2 months ago +1

      I’m trying to recover from losing my dog. I only had her for 2 years…I really miss her and feel the guilt and grief. It’s getting better now and I try to concentrate on myself. ❤

  • Bushi Two
    Bushi Two Month ago +92

    The beginning part with the story of Carl and Ellie, really breaks me especially when they are at the doctor and find out they can’t have children. This is what I am going through right now with my own husband and this hits me in a completely different way then it did watching this as a kid. 😢
    We decided to not let this stop us from living our lives, we even talked about traveling around the world and having fun experiences. ❤

    • RoseNZieg
      RoseNZieg 2 days ago

      no option of adoption?

    • FinlaySG
      FinlaySG Month ago +7

      And thankfully there is so much more else to do and live for. Many options and paths. You just need to pick one and follow. Good luck

    • sleepyote
      sleepyote Month ago +4

      Thank you for sharing your story, sending you love and hugs. 💕

  • Myra
    Myra Month ago +251

    My mom died in June. It's been 6 months, and this is the first Thanksgiving and Christmas in my 37 years of life without her. We were both disabled, and we lived together. I, honestly, felt, and still feel, that she was the only person who truly understood and knew me because of everything I've been through in my life with my chronic illnesses and physical disabilities and mental issues and trauma and everything. She truly understood how my mind worked after I almost died and was in a coma for 17 days and had a fever of 109 for over a day when I was 22. I feel so lost and lone without her in my life, and part of me can't accept that she's gone, and the other part knows she's gone, but there's also another smaller part that is having trouble remembering her, and actually sometimes wonders if she was even really real or not because I'm forgetting because of the way my mind works, and I'm so scared that I'm going to forget absolutely everything about her like I have my granddaddy and uncle and grandma. I haven't forgotten everything, but I've forgotten so much, and I dont' want to forget my mom. She meant so much to me, and I'm struggling so much, and this video, this damn video made me cry. Lmao. Damn it. Like, I've been holding so much in because I just don't want to accept she's gone, but damn it, ya'll made me confront my damn grief. Lol. ♥

    • Margo Alex.
      Margo Alex. 4 days ago +2

      I don’t know what your situation is but, as someone with ADHD and a lot of trauma that distorts my memories, I can confirm from personal experience that a lot of these replies are right. Writing can be a beautiful and cathartic way to capture memories. Even if you don’t write all the details down, just writing how you feel about them can take you back and help you remember. It’s a nice comforting gift from your past self to look back on.

    • AdaLiA14 Gaming
      AdaLiA14 Gaming 16 days ago +3

      @Myra Adventure is out there! Go write! It’s beautifully therapeutic and engaging.
      I’m so sorry for your loss, I’m crying for you.

    • JustAlpha
      JustAlpha 19 days ago +1

      Even if you have to defy fate, do not allow for yourself to forget, because your mother fought for you.

    • Myra
      Myra Month ago +10

      @Serakayle I love that idea! I hadn't thought of that, but that's beautiful. ♥ Thank you.

    • Serakayle
      Serakayle Month ago +16

      I would add to Crosita's idea and also would suggest keeping a notebook on you at all times. Any time you remember a fond memory of you and your mom, something that popped out of nowhere, just jot it down. Eventually you'll have a full notebook of happy memories that you can remember her by.

  • Bryan Hinsch
    Bryan Hinsch Month ago +91

    I LOVE this channel. Seeing two grown men openly express raw emotion and have it received in a healthy and non-judgemental way is such a healing experience.

  • David Kearns
    David Kearns Month ago +113

    Russell having to help Carl "Cross Something" paying off by helping Carl Cross his heart is probably the most brilliant part of the entire screenplay

  • Malia Estrada
    Malia Estrada 2 months ago +2602

    I love how Russell's line of "its the boring stuff I remember the most" mirrors Carl and Ellie's life together. Most the their memories and pictures are of simple things like cleaning their house or driving or going to work but that's what made up their life

    • JustAlpha
      JustAlpha 19 days ago +1

      @Marah Baker Always treasure the moments, even the simple ones

    • cyrad
      cyrad Month ago +4

      Remembering the boring stuff is where the pain of loss feels more real to me. I did not shed a tear at my grandfather's funeral. Almost 20 years later, I recently recalled when he would help me catch grasshoppers and crawdads from a creek near his house so I could take them home as pets. It felt like someone rammed their fist into my chest and crushed my heart like a soda can.

    • Marah Baker
      Marah Baker Month ago +7

      The boring stuff has always been my favorite. I'm so content to spend a quiet evening at home with my husband, having a good meal and then he'll game on his computer and I'll sit near him watching crime documentaries. Then we spend an hour talking while getting ready for bed. My favorite thing to do😊

    • Pa5an1
      Pa5an1 Month ago

      Oh whoops, I just made basically the same comment. I should’ve known someone would beat me to it 😅

    • nicrome
      nicrome Month ago +8

      Woah the original comment just made the movie so much better! Its the boring stuff that i remember, and Carl looks reminiscingly and we all saw the first few mins. 🤯

  • darondax
    darondax 2 months ago +68

    Russell is my favorite Pixar character of all time. For whatever reason, I started bawling the first time he popped up on screen, and all his scenes make me tear up; even the funny ones.
    I love his innocence and wonder, and the moments where he gets down just hit so much harder because he’s usually so bubbly. I just take a spear to my heart whenever I see him on screen.

  • Cassandra Vezzani
    Cassandra Vezzani Month ago +94

    I lost my best friend a couple of months ago. I don’t know what it was about this video, but I began crying so much. Words cannot describe how grateful I am you guys posted this. Thank you.

    • Serakayle
      Serakayle Month ago

      I'm sorry for your loss. I think it's because deep down (this is just speculation I'm sorry if I'm crossing a line) you know your best friend would want you to live your life happily and without grief. Fictional characters stem from real people and I think you see a little bit of your best friend in Ellie.

  • gianna boscacci
    gianna boscacci 2 months ago +74

    a minute into the video I’m already crying. I lost my grandpa this year and he always reminded me of Carl

    • Aniya Green
      Aniya Green 29 days ago +1

      I lost my grandpa too :( so sorry for your loss, People say it'll get better so we just have to belive that :)

    • Zena Goria
      Zena Goria Month ago +2

      Carl and Ellie remind me of my grandparents who too have passed away 🥺 So sorry for your loss 🙏🏼

  • Arjun Gupta
    Arjun Gupta Month ago +15

    The reason Carl hadn't opened up the book ever since Ellie gave it to him was because he was petrified of finding it empty. He thought he had failed to give her the life she yearned for, the life of a grand adventure she would've liked to put in that book. Opening up that book and finding empty pages would've ripped his heart out and reminded him of his failure (in his eyes) to fulfill the most important person's wish in his life. So he never found the courage to open it until he met and helped Russell.
    This is so heart wrenchingly close to reality and how people process feelings in real life. They are fearful and unwilling to look within themselves until a new experience compels them to reassess their beliefs, and when they finally do find the courage to confront their emotions, emboldened by their wisdom from the new experience, they are surprised to see it was something different all along. The other person thought and felt in a completely different way and in the end, nothing was how you thought it was.
    This realisation was positive in Carl's case as it set him free but it can also be negative and rip out your heart.
    This is how so many revelations happen in relationships. Parents, siblings, lovers, friends, colleagues etc
    Damn you, Pixar.

  • Doro Ma
    Doro Ma 2 months ago +1683

    I love that Elli was always the one that wanted the big adventure out there and she got the little times, the adventure of everyday life. And Carl only wanted the everyday life and got the (very, very) big adventure and that was exactly what each of them needed. Beautiful!

    • Unterdessen 8
      Unterdessen 8 12 days ago +1

      There's a short novel by Leo Perutz called "The Cossack and the Nightingale" with a similar concept. It plays in the 1920s, shortly after the Bolshevik revolution in Russia and is about an aristocratic couple, who had to flee from there.
      The wife adapts to her new life of just being an ordinary citizen in Western Europe and works as a singer.
      Before the story started, she broke up with her husband over a case of infidelity (on his side) and at first he isn't really in the story - but he interferes with her trying to find a new relationship. All of her love interests suddenly vanish (and it's because her husband kidnaps them or does something to them) and she knows that it's him doing this, which makes her quite paranoid.
      And his schemes get more outrageous over time. At one point she is convinced, that he must have bribed the king of Spain to prevent her from dating a new man.
      SPOILERS from here on
      In reality, Count Ogolenski (the husband) is on a mission: He's part of a Tsarist group, that rescued one of the Tsar's daughters (I'm not going to say which, but it's not the one you think of right now), got her out of Russia and hid her in the Netherlands. They're trying to get the crown jewels to her, because they're planning to install her as the new empress to combat the Bolshevik takeover. The count's main job is to bring the actual crown to her.
      He's ready to let his marriage crash and burn over this, because it's more important to him to save his motherland, but he still cares so much for his wife, that he takes precautions to keep her out of the plot and prevent her from finding a new man. Because in the end he hopes, that he will be able to save both his country and his marriage.
      To get his wife out of harm's way he pretended to have an affair (which he didn't) and agreed to a separation. But he keeps an eye on her, either personally or through his agents, and tries to discourage or remove every man she shows interest in, while at the same time managing his political activities.
      This costs him all of the money he was able to put away... so when his wife starts retaliating and attacks his stocks, that doesn't hurt him, because he sold those long ago to finance his mission. She can't bankrupt him at this point, because he has nothing to his name anymore.
      Late in the story she learns what he has done, and that he was never unfaithful and only pushed her away to protect her (so if he became a target, she wouldn't be associated with him), and that does save their marriage (aka the thing he was willing to give up for the greater good). On the other hand, the thing he wasn't willing to give up - Russia and its new empress - is destroyed: He succeeds in bringing the crown to the hidden princess and learns, that it doesn't mean anything to her anymore, because she's a young womanm, who just fell in love and doesn't want to be drawn into politics. She simply calls off the mission to conquer back her country from the Bolsheviks, because she found a boyfriend in the Netherlands and wants to focus on that.
      The count is pretty devastated about this, but she's his empress (from his POV), so he can't do anything and follows her orders. He worries, that his wife may have gotten away during this last hot phase of the crown jewel mission, because he wasn't able to personally stalk her, and didn't have the money to pay someone to do it, but because she found out and understands what he did, he can at least get back with her.

    • Jalu3
      Jalu3 2 months ago +95

      24:54 it was great that Ellie left a message for Carl to continue to live.
      When death is sudden, or unexpected, a loved one does not always leave such a message. And those who remain behind in this mortal life, are left without the loved one in their life; without such a clear message that it's OK to continue to live a life after they have left.
      The pain of grief, of loss, is real. Comfort those who are going through their journey. Some journeys are longer than others.

  • Nori Vixen
    Nori Vixen Month ago +61

    My dad was diagnosed with a terminal illness where protein builds up in the brain a couple months back. I'm still grieving the fact I'm basically losing my dad in my early 20s. I know this Christmas is gonna be a rough one on basically everyone in my family.

    • Stephen Chin
      Stephen Chin 19 days ago

      Having lost my parents in comparable fashion, I can sympathize with what you must be feeling and what you will feel. It'll never go away, but it will get better, I promise.

    • Yuung Mung
      Yuung Mung Month ago +2

      Cherish whats still here

    • BEWaymire
      BEWaymire Month ago +3

      Follow the example of this film. This movie actually came out the year after I lost my own dad (cancer) and its message about moving on without forgetting is incredibly true.

    • 〜《Firefly_Kai》〜
      〜《Firefly_Kai》〜 Month ago +4

      I can’t imagine what you must be going through, loosing someone so suddenly must be life changing. It’s okay to be vulnerable and to put yourself first, try to get the support you need. I wish you all the best for you, your family, and your father

  • Natalie Carbone
    Natalie Carbone Month ago +112

    I heard an interview with Michael Giacchino about the opening sequence, he was working with the studio orchestra to get the pacing right, they finally made it thru the scene and EVERYONE from strings to percussion was crying as they played, because the film plays on a screen in front of them. No one had really seen it yet, certainly not with music. So they had to take a cry break, and then they had to do it like 4 more times so they had enough material to do the mixing, even Michael was bawling his eyes out and he knew what was going on!!!

  • Stardust_13
    Stardust_13 Month ago +16

    Dogs and cats are therapy just by existing. I cry while holding a purring cat allll the time.

  • J D
    J D 2 months ago +32

    Dammit, I wasn't planning on having an emotional breakdown before work today, but then I just had to go and watch this video. Thank you, Alan and Johnathan, and everyone else at Cinema Therapy, for continuing to cover these amazing movies. You guys are shining examples of humanity, and I am so glad I found your channel.

  • Joel Gilmore
    Joel Gilmore 2 months ago +7862

    I like the fact that the main thing he had to do to get Ellie’s message is “turn the page” which is like moving on, when he was just stuck on that one page he was stuck in his grief

    • Chelsey Groves
      Chelsey Groves 10 days ago +1

      That's beautiful. Thank you. Haha

    • Ryu Bogard
      Ryu Bogard 23 days ago +3

      And can we also talk about the fact that the main antagonist is someone that stick for his whole life to his goal that is to find the bird, and never stopped even when he should have, instead of "turning the page" ?
      He was like Carl when he was focus in the past. And when Carl decide to move on, he fight the antagonist representing in some way the one he was before and also the one that he admired, as he "turn the page".
      Conclusion : great writing, and great antagonist

    • Izabela
      Izabela 23 days ago +1

      I always thought Ellie just wrote this because she wanted to be brave and see the best of things and be grateful for them and just be kind and loving for Carl to make him feel better but I always felt she WAS unhappy because of that abandoned dream of adventure. Now this film became a bit less dramatic for me! Thanks

    • msk
      msk Month ago +1

      why does everthing about this movie's detail make me wanna cry 😭😭😭

    • Uniquorn91
      Uniquorn91 Month ago +1

      Hands down the best Pixar movie ever imo 😭❤️👍

  • Ande Perry
    Ande Perry 2 months ago +25

    When Russell mentioned his Dad and how he misses him, it reminded me of one of my first memories with my Dad. He's been gone for 6 and a half years now. I know my Mom had a hard time grieving but is doing much better now. She recently just took a trip across the West U.S.! By herself! I don't think she could have done that first starting out grieving for sure. One of my earliest memories of my Dad was us going to Mount Rushmore (we lived far away), and I had icecream as I was on top of his neck! I'm trying not to forget him, but sometimes it's hard to remember some things. Sweet Caroline is the last song I remember him playing at a bar with his guitar. Makes the song more like Bittersweet Caroline... bah bah bah... :L lol.

  • AQGD Marcy
    AQGD Marcy 2 months ago +303

    I think I've never seen a situation like Russel's being so well represented. Sometimes our parents are so busy working to give us a good life that they don't even look at us properly and by the time we grow up we might have very few memories with them. They do the sacrifice for us, but it's not a sacrifice that children need, they need love and life lessons education. Russel treasures all little memories he have of his father because he doesn't see him much (and his stepmother isn't helping either...), that's why he also dedicates so much to the boy scouts thing, they give him attention and prizes for his good deeds - something the parents should do

    • Bushi Two
      Bushi Two Month ago +5

      I think his parents are divorced, and his new wife is telling Russel to stop calling as much right?

    • Izuku Midoriya
      Izuku Midoriya Month ago

      @standshadow oh not a bad idea

    • standshadow
      standshadow Month ago +5

      I thought his parents were divorced. Phyllis is his Dad's girlfriend, not his mom, but his mom appears at the end to watch him get his badge.

    • AQGD Marcy
      AQGD Marcy Month ago +13

      @Izuku Midoriya you're right, maybe it's a nanny that would explain why she's uncomfortable to talk with Russel's father! If it were his stepmother in the end of the movie then at least she's participating in the boy's life, she talks with him, but they don't have a mother-son relationship... It's still good, means she likes him as a young person

    • Izuku Midoriya
      Izuku Midoriya Month ago +19

      I thought that it may have been his stepmother but I thought the way he said she wasn't his mum felt less offended (idk since stepmother when good would be seen as mum to me) and more confused so maybe she's like a live in nanny which would make sense with the dad being at work all the time

  • Mats Berglinn
    Mats Berglinn Month ago +10

    In 2008, I lost my first girlfriend and partner (while the autopsy couldn't determine the cause of death, my theory is she had a seizure, since she was epileptic, she collapsed because of it and hit her head on the floor, as I found her unconcious in the bathroom of our home, making her brain collapse), we were together for nearly two years and lived together about one and a half years and I loved her so much, at first I couldn't live without her. My parents convinced me not to end my life to join her, living with them for a couple of days and then we traveled to their apartment in Torrevieja, Spain, to get away for awhile. After her funeral, I did recover from the loss ad moved on, though til this day I still miss her and ponder upon how life would have been if she was still alive (which surely would have been different). Having experienced loss of my lover, I relate to Carl and his loss of Ellie.

  • Kisa Prime
    Kisa Prime 2 months ago +33

    Carl and Eli reminds me of my grandparents. My grandmother was extremely active all her life in spite of how very Feeble and weak she was physically growing up. Most never thought she was live long at all but she did but she survived breast cancer, another serious disease I forgot but she barely made it through, and so many others. Through all that she was the happiest person and so active in everything she did. Sadly what got her in the end was Dementia at the age of 91. At the funeral I remember passing my grandpa looking at the screen showing pictures of my grandma's life. He was there alone and first time I ever saw him crying. He became less social after her passing and no matter what kept trying to get into tractors and do other farm work. I think he handled his grieving by staying out on the farm riding around and following my dad saying what needs to get done which at 95 it's impressive he can still get into the tractors. Though I know my grieving for her hasn't been the best. I struggle to set foot in their house because the second I do I look at everything and it reminds me of how I spent most of my childhood playing around there with my grandma watching us and playing games with me and my siblings.

  • MrChannelforwatching
    MrChannelforwatching 2 months ago +7293

    You guys didn’t mention it, so I wanted to point out:
    At 18:44 when it shows a closeup of the missing badge, that gap is actually located directly on top of his heart. It’s meant to show that hole in his heart due to his detached relationship with his father. The reason why he wants that badge so much is because he feels that if he gets that last badge, he’ll rekindle his relationship with his father, and fill that gaping hole in his heart.
    By the end of the film, that gap is filled by Carl giving him the Ellie badge. In the end, Russel’s heart is fulfilled. It’s extremely clever character design and symbolism.

    • dnae
      dnae 18 days ago

      Hot damn, nice catch.

    • Christi
      Christi 28 days ago

      Omg 😭😭😭

    • Waffleboy
      Waffleboy 28 days ago +3

      @A C Even further in depth, that moment where Carl is reading through the book. He picks up Russell's sash and its a great analogy for Ellie's life. Every badge is something that was completed, accomplished, fulfilled. Ellie got so much love and joy out of her life with Carl that Paradise Falls became a side objective. Which is another great way of saying that it's okay if you don't always get to do that one thing that you really want to do. The other things you get to do in your life can fill the empty space.

    • A C
      A C Month ago +1

      @礼无 | Siiri I’m so so sorry for your loss. Grandmas are treasures. I lost mine not too long ago too. I re-realize it often, and the scab reopens. This thread has inspired me to be mindful that I can carry her light into my interactions with others, and to use the painful moments of re-grieving as reminders to check in that I am doing just that.
      I wish you comfort. 💜
      Hugs from afar.

    • A C
      A C Month ago +2

      I hadn’t noticed that. ❤️
      Bringing that observation further… only by Carl moving forward in life was he able to carry Ellie’s light to others. I guess that’s what they mean when they say that someone is never truly gone so long as they live in someone’s heart. It’s not simply about memories from the past, but also how you bring the best parts of them along the rest of your journey.

  • Louis Johnson
    Louis Johnson Month ago +17

    "... but I think the boring stuff, is the stuff I remember the most." I ADORE that line. Very true.

  • Edellane Flanegin
    Edellane Flanegin Month ago +25

    The editor and the whole team in general is giving us peak content and I'm here for it.

  • Wendingus
    Wendingus Month ago +497

    This one hits hard in a way I really appreciate. My mother has stage 4 terminal cancer and I've been her caregiver for my entire adult life - it is what has always defined me. The thought of embarking on my own life without her feels wrong, but also necessary. Thanks for breaking down such a complicated part of grief.

    • Ken Games
      Ken Games Month ago +6

      Same here, - my mother also got cancer. Lately i have been thinking about, what life do i have without her.

    • danas62
      danas62 Month ago +1

      Maybe this can be seen as the giving of two gifts? You caring for your Mother is your gift to her for raising you right and needing to repay her. And her passing is her gift to you as a source of strength to continue on and keep going?

    • RYET Music
      RYET Music Month ago +23

      My heart goes out to you, I have lived through a similar scenario. And it is very hard to face, harder to think what might happen next. What I can say is that life will always different, and though some things may become bittersweet, it will never take away what you hold dear. I hope your mother lives a wonderful life, and that you will as well. Please reach out to me if you just need to talk to someone, I will listen

  • Steve ThirdCityMo
    Steve ThirdCityMo 2 months ago +316

    I hit the flip side of this just recently, confronting the possibility of losing a grandchild. I’ve lost a parent, a sibling, but nothing so gutted me as that thought of losing a small child who was my child’s love and joy.

    • 7 Rhymes
      7 Rhymes Month ago +21

      I lost my grandmother back in 2021. Know that every time you saw them, every time you bent a rule, gave them a hug, gave them an extra cookie or you spoke about how great they were, they remembered those times and felt happiness whenever they did. I'm sorry you had to go through that experience.

    • LoweLyfe XO
      LoweLyfe XO Month ago +20

      Sending all the strength in the world 💙

  • KittyPie
    KittyPie 2 months ago +717

    One thing I noticed recently is that Russell is like the child Ellie and Carl couldn’t have. He loves the outdoors and exploring and is very crafty, they would’ve loved him

    • Alex Martinez
      Alex Martinez Month ago +15

      Fuck that’s not fair, man!

    • msk
      msk Month ago +14

      stwapp now im crying more 😭

  • MaggieintheRain
    MaggieintheRain Month ago +13

    Not until I watched this video did I realize that the empty space on Russel's sash is symbolic of the empty space within him from his father's abscence 😭
    This movie is perfect and pure and I loved the conversation #allthefeels ❤️

  • Nerdmom81
    Nerdmom81 Month ago +6

    I had just had my third child and was coming home from the hospital and dealing with baby blues. I asked my mom to pick up a movie for me to watch with our older two kids and specifically stipulated-NOTHING SAD. Because, baby blues.
    She brought us Up. I sat in a rocking chair, held my newborn son, and was emotionally NOT ok during that opening montage! It’s been a difficult movie for me to watch ever since. Though it is beautiful!

  • Kaitlyn Charney
    Kaitlyn Charney Month ago +7

    When you said that the beginning montage was like one of the best films ever inside another film it totally struck me how it kind of symbolizes how our lives with people can flash by and sometimes we take even the great times for granted and once they’re gone the weight of that makes every day without them drag on. It’s almost like that’s what this movie represents.

  • Grimm
    Grimm 2 months ago +9

    UP is a true masterpiece. With 3-4 minutes of animation it hits you in the feels as hard as Coco after it spends an entire movie on smart set up and beautiful execution and then encores with another 10/10 experience in a single sitting. If that's not unparalleled I damn sure can't provide the example to prove it.

  • Candida Wojcik
    Candida Wojcik 2 months ago +1668

    I had always felt that Ellie's message was telling Carl that he didn't have to worry about not completing her childhood adventure with her because their life together was her adventure and he should start a new one without guilt. It reminded me of when my grandmother passed away and I found out that she slept with pictures of all of us grandchildren under her pillow every night.

    • Just some Random Guy Here
      Just some Random Guy Here  21 day ago +1

      @Jesus Saves! Not the right place for this, they may not even be christian. Posting probably brought up some emotions so just don't comment these on sentimental stuff

    • Pat Wolfe
      Pat Wolfe Month ago +9

      @Jesus Saves! Look, I love Jesus with my whole heart but this isn't the place and doesn't honor Him.

    • loocinatheworld
      loocinatheworld 2 months ago +24

      @Jesus Saves! well why don't you put jesus christ's picture under your pillow then.

    • Jesus Saves!
      Jesus Saves! 2 months ago +2

      Another truth many have been deceived of:
      When you trust in God and cast your cares (worries, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts) upon him, they will be NO MORE!
      Know that there is power in the name Jesus Christ! His name casts out demons and heals!
      The world is wicked, evil, and of the devil.
      I too, was a wicked sinner of the world before I opened my heart to God. I am living proof of God's work and fruitfulness! He is an active God who hears the prayers of his! God's children are set apart (holy) and righteous. The devil is a liar that comes to steal, to kill, and to destroy; that includes your relationship with God.
      Open your heart to God, repent of your sins (he will forgive you), and let him direct your path. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands and purify your heart, lest you walk with the devil and follow him to hell.

    • Jesus Saves!
      Jesus Saves! 2 months ago +1

      Jesus Christ is the propitiation for the whole world's sins. They that believeth and are baptized (with the Holy Spirit) shall be saved; but they that believeth not shall be damned. Those led by the Holy Spirit do not abide in wickedness.
      *God is ONE manifesting himself as THREE;* the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit! Bless him! *For these three are one.*
      As I am led by the Holy Spirit, nothing I state is a lie, but the truth of God. Anyone who tells you differently is misinformed or a liar. They do not know God, nor led by him.
      Anyone who *claims* to be a Christian and is against what I am doing, and where I am doing it; the Holy Spirit does not dwell within them, they lack understanding. They know not God, read his word, and their religion is in vain. Do not hear them, they will mislead you, the lost cannot guide the lost.

  • everybodydigacheese
    everybodydigacheese Month ago +7

    It might sound weird, but I love crying at movies. Some movies make me cry because they're sad, but this movie makes me cry, laugh, and feel hopeful; all the same time. Your interpretation of the grief process was right on point; it made me rethink various relationships in my own life. I'm not talking about death; I'm talking about other big events in your life, like moving to another country, divorce, kids becoming adults, and growing older alone. Thank you, guys!

  • NateBaloughsk28
    NateBaloughsk28 Month ago +5

    I’m so glad they talked about the scene with “thanks for the adventure”. Of course the opening is emotional and beautiful, but I also found Carl remembering and being able to move on from his grief and loss emotional as well. Up is so so so beautiful I swear

  • Ana Virgínia Souza
    Ana Virgínia Souza 2 months ago +11

    I've watched this movie SO MANY TIMES and I just cry every time, and the end Ellie's message just KILLS ME, it's just everything. It's 8 am and I'm bawling over here

  • Mo Venegas
    Mo Venegas Month ago +8

    I was around 7 years old when this movie came out, and through the eyes of a kid I just saw it as another fun and funny Pixar movie. I went quite a few years not really thinking about it until I rewatched it as an adult a couple years ago and it broke me. The raw emotion in this movie that I just didn't comprehend as a kid was so much to take in at once, and it's still somewhere in the top 5 times I cried most to a piece of media. It really is a perfect movie.

  • Lady Kilgore
    Lady Kilgore 2 months ago +8

    No matter how many times I've seen UP, it NEVER fails to evoke the ugly cry several times throughout the movie! Such a profound film.
    Side note: Your editor is brilliant and cracks me up so much.

  • animefan2977
    animefan2977 Month ago +5

    To me, this movie is healing as well because I feel like I've lost myself. I tend to try to make lasting relationships with people but my family moves a lot so it's difficult for me to keep in touch with people. When I move somewhere, I feel like part of me is lost where I left. I'm finding myself again and rediscovering what and who I want to be. Recently there have been setbacks such as my friend group imploding or who I thought was my bff cutting me off. With my bff especially, we were inseparable, I would always cling to her, and try to talk to her any chance I got. but then something happened in her life where she shut down. I told her I was always there for her and gave her space as she asked but she never talked to me again. I'm ranting but I rewatched this movie recently and the scene when Carl is looking through the adventure book hit me, "now go have a new one," it helped me realize that even though my friend left me, I should still cherish the time we had and move one. Make new friends and have new adventures. Life is all about the little moments because those little moments are what we are going to remember the most. Thank you for listening to my rant, have a wonderful time, and be safe.

  • Ariana Arias
    Ariana Arias 2 months ago +6

    I want to give my utmost appreciation to the editor, Trevor Horton, for editing a fantastic introduction to these videos. I absolutely love how the music, scenes, and Jonothan's commentary fit extremely well together!! THANK YOU! This one was very touching for me!

  • Go_ask_andrea
    Go_ask_andrea Month ago +2

    I have to say, everything about this channel is brilliant but my FAVORITE are the cut to’s you guys do in between comments. I’m a person who handles heavy emotions through humor. Cutting a joke between sobs often saves me from falling into a dark abyss. It’s a small thing but I have to say, for me, these really help me process the heavier videos. Love you guys so much!!

  • veevee306
    veevee306 2 months ago +1668

    As someone who lost the love of my life very young (I was 26, she was 21) it's extremely hard to realize you will spend decades without them. It makes it feel impossible to go on. But after almost 5 years, I've discovered I can go on. The opening montage to this movie gets me especially hard, but now I can feel the joy at the end too.
    EDIT: She knew she was dying and accepted it before I did. She told me that I would move on and love other people and be happy. I didn't see it at the time, but she was right. She was just like Ellie that way.

    • Leo
      Leo 2 months ago +1

      You'll never meet anyone like her again, but you'll meet someone else who is just a special to you in a slightly different way.

    • Akodaah13-E
      Akodaah13-E 2 months ago

      This reminds me of a doctor who line from an episode that is basically a journey to overcome grief that basically says: when someone diesd the day they die is not the worst one... Is all the days they stay dead that hurt the most

    • Dan Thomas Music
      Dan Thomas Music 2 months ago

      Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so grateful to you for opening yourself up in this way. Much love and solidarity ❤

    • Jeniko
      Jeniko 2 months ago +1

      Sometimes it is easier to accept your own death than the thought of losing someone you care deeply about. A friend of mine lost his wife due to stage 4 cancer and she was very calm about it while he was a wreck. It is important for use to know they are going off to a better place, free from pain and sadness, and eventually we will see them again. It is what gets me through hard times, even if it is lying to myself, it is far better than falling into a pit of despair manufactured by your own depression.
      Life is short, enjoy it while you can, and hopefully we can try again in the next one.

    • Arthur Spils
      Arthur Spils 2 months ago +1

      @Kaylynn Buente *maybe not the right place unless you've left out some details....

  • Bass_Hellfire
    Bass_Hellfire Month ago +4

    You guys are amazing! You make me want to rewatch all the films i’ve ever watched, just to look at the psychology. You’ve made me look to films in a total different way! Thank you! And keep this up! ❤

  • not him
    not him 2 months ago +76

    i love how in the scene where he was looking at Ellie's book, the colors were gray at first, the melancholy was so tense in this scene, its monotone. but slowly, just like the photos, the colors slowly starts showing more warm tones and then those colors became more evident. the first time carl puts his hand on a page, his hand was gray and almost dead-looking, but when he gets Ellie's massage, the hand is more alive and warm.

  • Hecate Nocturne
    Hecate Nocturne Month ago +3

    This is coincidental timing. I lost my son November 18th, and Up really is the movie that makes me feel (if only a tiny bit) like my life might not be over just yet despite feeling the opposite. I haven't watched this video all the way through yet, but hopefully you two give me some new perspective I haven't thought of. I've never been in this much pain in my life and all I want in this moment is to go be with him, but for some reason I'm still here...I just don't know why yet.

  • Marcellina Digiovanni
    Marcellina Digiovanni 2 months ago +1

    This was such a good Cinema Therapy episode! One of the best so far. Watching you guys laugh and cry makes ME laugh and cry😂 you should review Little Miss Sunshine next! It’s my favorite!

  • AttilaTheMom
    AttilaTheMom 2 months ago +1227

    I'm not crying.. YOU'RE crying. Oh heck, we're ALL crying. I love this movie so much. You guys are so amazing for all that you do.

    • Luubelaar
      Luubelaar Month ago +1

      Yup. I'm not crying. I'm bawling. As always with this film. Damn you Pixar.

    • Marah Baker
      Marah Baker Month ago

      It literally doesn't matter how many times I watch this, I cry just as hard every dang time😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • Apple Brush
      Apple Brush Month ago +1

      No. The onion slicing ninjas are back. Darn those ninjas!

    • kai_winchester_66
      kai_winchester_66 Month ago

      I cried so much 😭

    • cynthmcgpoet
      cynthmcgpoet Month ago +1

      Who put that bowl of onions there?

  • Lauren Burke
    Lauren Burke Month ago +7

    I cried within the first minute of this 😭 Thanks for what you do, guys.

  • giyuu tomioka
    giyuu tomioka Month ago +4

    Man I am legit crying at this. I remember watching this when I was a kid. But I never cried because I didn't really get it. I'm 19 now, and I am in tears over this. I really needed the cry. Amazing video cinema therapy.

  • Goose Meister
    Goose Meister 2 months ago +2

    Great episode dudes! When I was younger I didn't quite get the emotional sledgehammer that hits right at the start, but now I'm older that intro scene just hits like a freight train. Having lost my Dad recently, this movie hits especially hard. Great analysis of a great movie!

  • Kat N
    Kat N Month ago +66

    The first time I watched Up, my mother was going through a divorce. I bought it thinking that it was a movie about an old man and balloons. The opening sequence broke her. All she ever wanted was a love like that. We talked about how her life wasn’t over yet. A few years later, she met a man she adores. They have the chairs just like Carl and Ellie. Up always reminds me of that and how life can change.

  • Elle
    Elle 2 months ago +773

    Something I like to point out from the very beginning is the bedside table in the hospital room. The tape and markers. Ellie's finished scrapbooking the parts of the Adventure Book that Carl sees in the end. It's not a huge detail, but it's enough to foreshadow what he'll find in the book later. I like to think it's overlooked because everyone's eyes are too blurry with tears to see anything in that scene lol

    • Sven Morgenstern
      Sven Morgenstern 2 months ago +5

      Oh, I noticed...and, something only a CNA would catch - no toe pleats on Ellie's covers. I may be the only person in North America to catch that - good thing I did, because the alternative would've been a 72 hour involuntary psych hold. Yeah, "Up" hit pretty hard. 😭

    • General Codsworth
      General Codsworth 2 months ago +22

      I'd like to imagine that the nursing staff helped get her everything without Carl knowing for sure. If he had just opened the book instead of feeling like his gaze would taint Ellie's memory, things would've turned out differently for him. But of course, Russell was able to save Carl from himself, and Carl was able to help Russell in return.

    • Dan Thomas Music
      Dan Thomas Music 2 months ago +26

      Wow, I never noticed that before. Had to go back and see for myself. Great spot! I agree, this movie is an absolute masterpiece.

    • Natalie Valentina🇺🇦
      Natalie Valentina🇺🇦 2 months ago +84

      Yep. The 1st time I noticed the tape dispenser, I thought it was a strange thing to have on a patient's bedside table...then I realized it was her adding to her scrapbook. This movie is just a masterpiece.

  • kai_winchester_66
    kai_winchester_66 Month ago +2

    The start of this film always makes me CRY dammit Pixar 😭 even watching it with you guys had me weeping.

  • Robert Walkine
    Robert Walkine Month ago +6

    I cried this entire episode, no cap.
    Thank you the both of you 🙏🙏🙏

  • Nur
    Nur Month ago +3

    Thank you for your beautiful words. This movie gave me a different meaning now after the passing of my father. UP is the movie that I can never rewatch completely. The intro was devastating, but your highlight on the ending scene where Carl finally reads Ellie’s note was forgotten, and I am forever grateful that I get to watch it now, through your commentary. You helped translate hope and joy for me, for the days to come. This episode of yours is especially healing. For me. I needed to cry, and this was it.

  • Cr Hu
    Cr Hu 2 months ago +2

    The opening montage of Up is one of the masterworks of animation. Actually of storytelling in any art form.

  • Robbie Kenny
    Robbie Kenny 2 months ago +117

    I also LOVE that Russel quite literally has a hole in his heart (blank space on sash) that he think his dad will fill via pinning the badge
    EDIT: I Just realized that Carl only has the Grape Soda Top which he got from Ellie, who is his whole heart.

    • The Wanderers Post
      The Wanderers Post 2 months ago

      I was about to comment that, but it’s such a small detail that I love about this movie

  • 7Write4This9Heart7
    7Write4This9Heart7 Month ago +1

    That 'thanks for the adventure' scene is actually the scene I remember the most and has always hit hardest for me! I love it so much! ;A; If you love movies with incredible screenplays that tie up everything and have everything pay off in the end, Alan, might I interest you in Bambi 2? It's one of my absolute fave movies and does those BEAUTIFULLY! One of the reasons I, as a writer, love it as much as I do! HIGHLY recommended! (Bonus: it'll probs make you cry, too! lol.) >:D

  • Raspberry Jam
    Raspberry Jam Month ago +2

    I lost my mother when I was just under two years old. To this day, when my father watches this movie, the opening sequence makes him cry. Rest in peace Melissa Gray. Not a day goes by that she isn't missed.

  • Shazzberry
    Shazzberry 2 months ago +3

    The edits and extra comedic juxtaposition just really help people like me who are afraid of digging up grief again, still watch things like this that help me heal and process. Love y'all 🥰

  • Aubey
    Aubey Month ago +1

    I know this is weird to say but I love that you guys can cry in front of each other. y'all have a beautiful friendship 😭

  • Bettina Marchis
    Bettina Marchis 2 months ago +46

    I've never been so early! I would love seeing you make a video about Zuko (and Azula) in the show "Avatar the last airbender" on netflix. It's a great series, in fact the best I've ever seen. Already hyped for the video today!

    • Bettina Marchis
      Bettina Marchis 2 months ago +1

      @LongstoryXIII Let's be honest, if someone didn't cry they are heartless.

    • LongstoryXIII
      LongstoryXIII 2 months ago +1

      Oh. Yes! Do Zuko! There are so many themes and ideas. Not just the best redemption arc in fiction, but the best trauma recovery arc. The scene were he hugs Iroh always makes me cry like Alan.

    • Blu FishStar
      Blu FishStar 2 months ago +3

      I would love to see that. Ohh maybe they could do Wednesday 😃

  • Wilma Scholte
    Wilma Scholte Month ago

    When I first saw this, I was like "well, that made me cry in record time". Also, having a Golden Retriever, the hilarity of how accurate Dug is. I was crying with laughter over that.

  • Legiondaryspyrospyro
    Legiondaryspyrospyro Month ago +2

    My grandparents have been together since they were teenagers and this year my grandfather unexpectedly suddenly passed and now my grandmother (who had been diagnosed with terminal cancer since before he passed) just doesn’t want to do anything without him. So this movie really hits close to home

  • Duncan Van Ooyen
    Duncan Van Ooyen Month ago +1

    I lost my father recently, and it's been really challenging. On one hand, my father and I, while we got along well, we weren't very emotionally close, especially when I was younger. He was more like a friend/roommate until I was a teenager. This was because we were part of a broken family, and my mother and him had been separated for most of my life. Then, when I was about 16-17, he moved back in with us (complicated story, I won't go into it), and I started to see him much more often.
    You mentioned how consistency, and how just being there for someone is what really makes the difference in a relationship. And I think about how my Dad and I got along over the years; when I didn't see him very much, we used to go out and do something almost every visit. He was healthier, and it was more of an occasion. When he moved in with us, he was older, and much less healthy; he couldn't really get out as much, or as easily. But, when I look back at our time together, I remember mostly things that happened within the last 10 years or so of his life.
    I never really had a proper grieving for my father; that just wasn't the nature of our relationship. But I do think about him, almost every day.

  • janem0730
    janem0730 Month ago +3

    We never went to cinema with my dad much often, but we went to this movie together. And I saw my dad cry with this movie, which also happened almost never. My dad passed away six years ago and this movie will always be something that somehow connected us and we both just loved it so much. So this movie is an emotional journey for me in like 9000 levels. Thank you so much for this!

  • CaptainKRK
    CaptainKRK Month ago

    My step mom had never seen “UP” so I made her watch it one day when we it was just us and my Dad was on a trip, and she sobbed during the opening scene while my eyes just watered.
    Then when it got to Carl reading the book I muttered out an “oh God.” And began to sob during that scene.
    A few months after (last month) my dog died and I sobbed so hard. Watching this movie review is making me cry and reminding me why him reading the book touched my heart so much since my dog or anyone wants you to move on and live a happy/healthy life.
    I’m introducing it to my family during Christmas (because they apparently also live under a rock and never watched it)
    It’s my favorite Pixar film besides “Wal-E”
    I’m so happy that the guys finally did a review of it.

  • Jeremy Althiser
    Jeremy Althiser 2 months ago

    Lost the love of my life 5 years ago to lung cancer. She and I loved watching Up! in the theaters. No the opening just utterly destroys me. Even watching you guys review it left me a mess for hours.

  • MJ Gamet
    MJ Gamet Month ago +140

    Typically I don’t cry at movies, but Up gets me EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. And watching you guys cry made me cry even more 😂
    This movie is such a gem

  • NikyBee
    NikyBee Month ago +1

    It's simply amazing that I still cry so much whenever I watch this movie. Pixar is the best!

  • Will Taylor
    Will Taylor Month ago

    After my grandmother died, my close family and I were mentally and emotionally exhausted. She had been in home hospice for a bit over a week, and we had stayed by her bedside for most of that time. We decided to go to our local cinema to see a movie that might take our minds off it for a bit.
    We had seen trailers for Up featuring Doug, and thought it would be a funny movie involving a talking dog.
    I can’t say that it was a mistake to see Up that day. It was actually quite cathartic, but none of us were really prepared. That “Thanks for the adventure, now go have a new one” line broke me in that moment in a way I haven’t thought about in years.

  • Frances Skylar
    Frances Skylar Month ago +3

    First time I've cried during a Cinema Therapy episode - Thank you! ❤ I lost my dream career (and any back-up career) when I became too disabled to work, and also lost my sister who was the love of my life, and this is how I felt -- like everything I wanted to do and be was gone, like I'd lost my purpose and just about everything I'd ever loved. But there is more afterward, and thank you for the reminder that there is always something good out there for you, even if it's still on it's way ❤

  • NSGU
    NSGU Month ago

    I lost one of my best friends I've made over the last three years in October, and her loss changed how I've processed grief throughout my life, despite how short our friendship was.
    She and I were talking about saying 'fuvk it' and taking a trip to Vermont for shits and giggles this upcoming spring........instead, I'm celebrating her posthumous 28th in less than a week, and I genuinely don't know how I'm gonna act; but at the very least, I KNOW I'll keep what she gave me.
    Two words:
    Fuck. Cancer.

  • Pat Wolfe
    Pat Wolfe Month ago

    Thank you for this. My mom passed 6 months ago and emotionally, I have been a bit stuck. Thanks for reminding me of this movie and how to move on to new adventures.

  • Hilary Hawkins
    Hilary Hawkins 2 months ago +996

    My dad passed away from suicide 7 years ago and this is my first Christmas back home without him so this video really helped me. I just want to thank Johnathan and Alan for everything that they have done.

    • SatanicSylveon
      SatanicSylveon Month ago

      As of not even 4 days ago my younger brother of only 22yrs has passed away and I for the 2nd time have felt absolute wrenching heartbreak. It hurts so much and I know it will take quite a while to feel not as horrible. Kinda helps a bit being able to just vent it out.

    • Esther Pettigrew
      Esther Pettigrew Month ago

      It’s ok to hurt. It’s ok to feel weird. It’s ok to be ok. It’s ok to be a bit of everything. I lost my mom in 2021 and it hits me at strange time and in different ways and sometimes I completely forget, and it’s ok.

    • Notes by Nor ♪
      Notes by Nor ♪ Month ago +6

      as someone who has considered and tried suicide many times, this comment section was eye opening. thank you for sharing all your stories and i hope your wounds will heal or you will learn to move forward regardless

    • Grant Gilbert
      Grant Gilbert Month ago

      Merry Christmas! Wishing you peace. Sorry for your loss, but I hope this Christmas is everything you’re hoping for.

    • ArashiAiko
      ArashiAiko Month ago +3

      Losing a parent is rough. You'll get through this. I lost my dad when I was 17 of a heart attack and this year I lost my mom from covid complications.
      You will pull through. You got this. And it's okay to grieve and cry if you need to. No one should shame you for that.

  • Christian Marshal
    Christian Marshal Month ago

    Every member of my family including my brother in-law cried watching Up! He said what really got to him was the way Ellie and Carl sat on chairs side by side just like my grandparents used to.

  • kattekaren
    kattekaren Month ago +2

    I started crying in the intro ... Damn you guys !
    Also Michael Giacchino - he always makes me cry, even if it's something I've watched a million times.

  • Maria Jose Rivera
    Maria Jose Rivera Month ago

    I can't believe I've only watched the first minute and my eyes are already watery. You have some powerful words, Jono.

  • Sylvanus
    Sylvanus Month ago

    I lost count of how many times I cried while watching the his but it definitely helped put some issues I’ve been dealing with into perspective and I’m glad I finally got around to watching this reaction.

  • Aubrey
    Aubrey 2 months ago +384

    I remember we had to study the married life montage for my film making class.
    I almost burst into tears when I realized that there is a pink light that is thrown over the scenes. And I slowly began to realize that it dies out as Ellie does, and that the music soars and falls with her. And when it slows down at the end when Carl walks back into their home alone, and the last pink light slowly fades out with it...
    God, this films wrecks me.

    • Aubrey
      Aubrey 2 months ago

      @Katy Wolffis agreed! 🙌🏼

    • Aubrey
      Aubrey 2 months ago +2

      @Sunari we were all in tears. Even our teacher swiped a few away from his eyes before he turned the lights back on for discussion!😂

    • Aubrey
      Aubrey 2 months ago +1

      @Bobbie Jo Putnam seriously! The film making in this movie is incredible. Every detail is so intentional and wonderful!

    • Katy Wolffis
      Katy Wolffis 2 months ago +15

      It’s some of the most beautiful 4 minutes in cinematic history.

    • Sunari
      Sunari 2 months ago +24

      Your poor class, how can this one be studied through the tears?!

  • AzraNoxx
    AzraNoxx 2 months ago

    This movie still got me more than once, even through clips and reactions.

  • Anastasia Button
    Anastasia Button Month ago +1

    I loved this one. 💛
    If you haven't already thought of it I know many of us would love to see the animated (and severely underrated) film Treasure Planet on Cinema Therapy. 💜💥

  • Olivia McDonagh
    Olivia McDonagh Month ago

    My grandparents were married for 63 years this year. Sadly, my granddad finally lost his battle against Dementia this summer, after 15 years. My Grandma was his primary carer, and never once put him in a home. They loved each other so dearly, and even when he couldn't remember her anymore, he was always happy to see her when he opened his eyes.
    My grandma is an *incredible* woman, and the part 3 months, she's made leaps and bounds with her grief. I imagine a lot of it is stuff she isn't showing us, and knowing his death was coming helped, but she's already at the point of starting her "second life" without him. This film has changed *completely* for me now, and it just perfectly encapsulates grief. Beautiful film.

  • Sharon Lent
    Sharon Lent Month ago

    I love in the beginning 'short' how the light and colors change from full day and riotous colors to full dark and an almost mono-chrome look--the fact that the light fades out of the window as the door shuts is just devestatingly well done.

  • mouthymerc
    mouthymerc Month ago

    I remember seeing this in the theater and I couldn't believe I was crying after the first 5 minutes haha! Pixar, you evil geniuses!

  • Anne E Freres
    Anne E Freres Month ago

    I cried so hard in the opening story line that I gave myself hives on my cheeks

  • Amber Smith
    Amber Smith 2 months ago

    God I didnt expect to cry but I did...I love UP and I'm so glad yall finally did it ❤️

  • Jif
    Jif Month ago

    I was 9 watching this in the theater and the line "Phyllis isn't my mom!" struck me because I had no idea what Russell's family life was like but this cemented that something wasn't right, a first name was too formal to be a close parental figure and with a neglectful father...my 9 y/o self knew.

  • CaitSil
    CaitSil 2 months ago +348

    I've already seen that opening mini movie and it STILL makes me cry every time. I think it hits even harder for me rewatching it because I know that Ellie feels no regrets and Carl hasn't yet realized that the life they had together wasn't wasted.

    • Lucy M
      Lucy M 2 months ago +5

      I think in my case it didn't make me cry because it was the life I never had. Certainly not as a kid and teenager or in my twenties. Because I spent over a decade being treated as less than human by abusive special ed schools on the one hand and having that perception be validated by behaviors of an overprotective dad on the other. To the point that the stories of the residential schools Indigenous people were sent to were immediately relatable to me. It took me like two seconds to see that his life was NOT wasted. At least he had a life. At least he was treated like an actual person. At least he didn't spend a day in his life being subjected to any dehumanization whatsoever, even Dehumanization Lite (read: having your behavior read out like you're a literal lab animal or robot and they leave it at that and don't dehumanize you further).

  • Mokko
    Mokko 2 months ago +67

    I remember sitting in a theatre with my husband, surrounded by dozens of small children and their parents, bawling like fools. Everything about this film is just gold.

  • Mariana Flores
    Mariana Flores 2 months ago +3

    my grandma just died recently and I haven't watched this movie in a long while. We've been worried that my grandpa will just give up because after being married for 65 years, what do you do when your other half is gone? I really do hope that my grandpa finds new life like Carl does. This kinda cuts a different kind of way thinking about my grandparents in this movie as Carl and Ellie. Thank you guys for this tho. this video really gives me hope that he'll find something new to keep living for.

  • Lil Red
    Lil Red Month ago

    This movie always gets me too. Even just watching these clips by themselves I'm crying

  • Naomilani Nater
    Naomilani Nater Month ago +2

    I stumbled upon your channel a couple months ago and I gotta say, you guys are awesome. Jonathan, you make me want to become a therapist and I’m wholeheartedly pursing that now. I’ve always wanted to be a therapist but never seriously looked into it but now i will so I thank you for that. Your passion for helping others really inspires me. Alan, I appreciate and love how unapologetically open you are with your emotions, you don’t see too much of that nowadays and it’s really nice to see the brotherhood between y’all. Thank you for making these videos, I came across them when I needed them the most.

  • helena journals
    helena journals 2 months ago +1009

    "that might sound boring, but I think the boring stuff is the stuff I remember the most" is the most insane heart wrenching line ever written for an animated movie. WHO WROTE THAT!!!

    • Halloween All Year Round
      Halloween All Year Round 2 months ago +1

      @Kristin Russell is so small, pure, kind and empathetic. Anyone would be lucky to have him as a son. It pisses me off that his father and his new wife don't want him in his life. What she said was so cruel.

    • HouseMDaddict
      HouseMDaddict 2 months ago +1

      Most of my fondest memories as a kid were just playing in the yard, sitting on the couch together reading a book, etc. Granted this was well before cellphones and you and friends and family would sit around in the same room telling great stories and chatting about things and then gathering around the table for the meal. Idk it was just the best.

    • MossyMozart
      MossyMozart 2 months ago +2

      @Justanotherconsumer - You are a fine human being.

    • Kristin
      Kristin 2 months ago +17

      Yes! And when he says “Phyllis isn’t my mom”. Like he’s not fully understanding what his father and/or stepmother are doing to him. How they’re pushing him away and how there’s no place for him in his fathers new life. He’s not bitter, he just wants his dad and doesn’t really understand why he doesn’t want him.

    • WelshZeCorgi
      WelshZeCorgi 2 months ago +5

      It's really true. I haven't seen my father in 30 years, but the clearest memory I have of him is just throwing a dumb baseball to each other in the front yard when I was like... 8.

  • frnknstndrgqn
    frnknstndrgqn 2 months ago +2

    this movie makes me think of my grandfather.... i miss him so much. First time I watched this movie I cried through the whole movie and when I say the whole movie I mean it lol... I started to calm down and then him looking at the book and her message broke me all over again... Also props to Ed Asner who plays the voice of Carl. RIP king.

  • Leanne Domingo
    Leanne Domingo Month ago +1

    I can’t believe UP still has the ability to make me cry, even to this day 😭 ❤️

  • Kristen Amendola
    Kristen Amendola Month ago

    Thank you for choosing to cover grief right now. It hits different this time of year ❤